How To Be Charming, 8 Steps: BrianKim.net
Recently I’ve been reading though Brian Kim’s blog, and there was one article that really caught my eye. The post is titled How to be Charming. It breaks down the act of “charm” into 8 steps. They are:
- Get your own life in order first.
- Exercise
- Wear the clothes.
- Pre-socialize [before an event].
- [At an event] pretend you’re the host and talk to EVERYBODY.
- You, not I.
- Make them feel good.
- Be positive.
These may seem fairly obvious, but one you read Brian’s spin on each step you realize that you may have a few things to learn after all.
An Excerpt from the Article:
1. Get your own life in order first.
“When everything is going right in your life, the world is your oyster. You’re in the zone, you’re on top of the world, you feel invincible, like everything has fallen into place just for you. You don’t have a single worry in the world and you feel like singing and dancing in the rain. With this kind of mental state, it’s a double edged sword. It can lead you to become the most charismatic person in the world, or the most obnoxious and boastful person in the world (more on how to not be the latter later on in this article).“You cannot fake charisma if you have problems going on in your life, whether it’s trouble paying the bills, family issues, relationship problems, etc. That stuff will weigh you down.
“Get your life in order. Pay the bills, save some money in the bank, forgive other people, don’t hold grudges, be courteous to all, resolve any issues you have with people, have a passion in life, have a dream you’re working on, eat right, exercise, etc. You will find that getting your act together will make it extremely easy for you to be charismatic, because then you can do the other half of what charismatic people do, and that is focus on the other person.”
I suggest reading even more of Brian’s articles like How to Find What you Love to Do, Why Every Man Should Lift Weights, and How to Have a Great Day. I honestly think this guys blog will get very popular very fast. Take a look!
